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How to Recover from the Death of a Loved One

A friend recently contacted me to ask how to heal after a relative died.  Her loved one was the last of his generation, and his passing left some unresolved family issues, as is true in most families.

What to do to heal your grief when a loved one dies

  • Expect healing to take time 

Expect six months of the worst grief, then gradual healing for about two years total.  Most people tell me they feel much better after the first anniversary of the death, and after the second year, most say they are back to functioning and feeling about the same as before the death.  Of course, for a while to come we may find grief returning around holidays, anniversaries, …

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Made to Be Like God #4–Relationships

Our Relational Dimension

This is the 4th in a series of five posts on the Five Dimensions with Which God Made us .

Links to the previous posts are at the bottom of this post, and briefly introduce our spiritual, intellectual, and emotional dimensions.

Relationships are 4th in priority because our spiritual health and thinking controls how we act in relationships, and our emotions are essential for communicating.  God made us to live interdependently with him and others.

We cannot experience the Abundant Life he promised us without many caring relationships in which we give and receive love.  Healthy fulfilling relationships are dependent upon how well we use relational skills.

Relational Skills We All Need to do Well

Here are

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What One Person Can Do to Improve Any Relationship

When faced with relationship problems the other person doesn’t want to resolve, what can we do? Half of my work with conflict has been with just one person. Individuals I taught have been just as successful in improving their relationships as couples I have coached. This is because one person improving behavior toward another changes the dynamics in the relationship. When we intentionally use healthier, more helpful skills, our effort will often lead to the other person changing in healthier ways, improving the relationship.

There are no guarantees acting more mature will save or improve a relationship, but it can’t hurt, and the person making the effort will be happier and have better skills for all relationships: with kids, friends, …

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